What is what to do when he cheats?

It's incredibly painful and disorienting to discover infidelity. Here's some information about how to navigate this difficult situation:

1. Take a Breath and Don't React Immediately:

Your initial reaction will likely be intense: anger, sadness, confusion. Try to resist the urge to confront them immediately in a fit of rage. Give yourself some time to process the information. Leave the room if necessary.

2. Gather Information:

Before making any decisions, try to get a clear picture of what happened. Avoid assumptions. Did you find proof or is it just a suspicion? If you decide to confront them, do so calmly and ask direct questions. Remember, the goal isn't to accuse but to understand.

3. Prioritize Your Well-being:

This is a traumatic experience. Your mental and emotional health is paramount.

• Seek support: Talk to a trusted friend, family member, or therapist. Sharing your feelings can be incredibly helpful. See the link: Seek%20Support
• Practice self-care: Engage in activities that help you relax and de-stress. This could be exercise, meditation, spending time in nature, or pursuing a hobby. See the link: Practice%20Self-Care
• Avoid making rash decisions: Don't make any significant life changes (e.g., quitting your job, moving out) until you've had time to process your emotions and think clearly.

4. Decide What You Want:

This is the hardest part. Once you have gathered enough information and calmed down, you have to start thinking about your future. What do you want? Here are your possible options:

• End the relationship: Cheating is a dealbreaker for many people. If you can't imagine rebuilding trust, ending the relationship may be the best option. This can be a difficult but also liberating step to take. See the link: End%20the%20Relationship
• Consider Couples Therapy: If both you and your partner are willing to work on the relationship, couples therapy can be helpful. A therapist can help you understand the underlying issues that led to the infidelity and develop strategies for rebuilding trust. See the link: Couples%20Therapy
• Set Boundaries: This applies whether you decide to stay or leave. Clearly define what you are and are not willing to tolerate in the future. Sticking to your boundaries is crucial for your self-respect. See the link: Set%20Boundaries

5. Communicate (If You Choose To):

If you choose to try and repair the relationship, open and honest communication is essential. This means expressing your feelings, listening to your partner's perspective, and being willing to forgive (if that's what you decide). This is a difficult process and may require professional help.

Important Considerations:

• It's not your fault: Cheating is a choice the other person made. Don't blame yourself.
• Trust takes time to rebuild: Even if you decide to stay, it will take time and effort to rebuild trust. Be patient with yourself and the process.
• Forgiveness is a process, not an event: Forgiveness is not about condoning the behavior but about releasing yourself from the burden of anger and resentment. It's a personal journey that may or may not be possible. See the link: Forgiveness

Remember, you are not alone, and help is available. Prioritize your well-being and make the best decision for your future.